Being frank...

i have a friend who speaks whatever that comes to her mind. Looking at it as a virtue, i would say she's honest and non-hypocritical. However, looking at it as a weakness, she's tactless and perhaps too frank. When she continually hurts ppl with her words, i guess i'll say she's insensitive to the extent of becoming malicious.

as much as i think ppl should not be hypocritical, i still believe there is some value in white lies and perhaps cushioning words with niceties. without such traits, a civilised society would never be possible and ppl can hardly function with each other, isn't it?

i mean just looking at my friend, i dare say she's incurring a lot of wrath in ppl around her with some of her appalling comments. (they seem to be extremely frequent these days, compared to last time... must be the stress) nobody seems to wanna work with her and we're all trying to shun her (her icy words more like it) as much as possible. i dun believe she's all that happy-go-lucky either... i mean after saying things tt irritate other ppl, if she doesn't go home feeling upset, she must be in total oblivion!

sometimes ppl around her are at fault too... for not pointing out her mistake. well, so far she hasn't really stepped on my toes yet. but i think if she does, i'm gonna tell her off. someone's gotto let her know she cannot go around throwing her darts and not make amends for all the harm she's done. i mean if she's really your friend and you want her to do well in life, be a better person, you'll let her know her mistakes and correct her right? (i.e. if i'm doing something wrongly, and u're my friend, please DO correct me!!) but whether she listens and learns or not, is another matter altogether...