Marriage is IN!

Wow! "Getting Married" seems to be the IN thing nowadays! Wedding rings are popping on my girlfrens' fingers one by one! I get a kick outta hearing all the silly AND SWEET (of course!) things all these guys had done to secure that promise of commitment and devotion. and looking at the blissful looks they have on their faces, i feel really happee for them!

That day, i was reading Sumiko Tan's article in "Duet" (this magazine by SDU... don't ask me how come i'm receiving it. i rejected the membership already!)... The article was entitled "A Woman Needs A Man" and to quote her... she said "But the inescapable truth - one that i've finally allowed myself to acknowledge - is this: Life is really much nicer when you have someone to share it with."

Someone (and i know who... hehheh) will argue and say that "the person to share that life with you need not necessarily be a spouse wat". And Sumiko's answer to that is "No amount of cake and coffee with your girlfriends, or a pet dog's unconditional love, can give a woman the same happiness as when she is in the company of the man she adores and who loves her back."

Indeed... I absolutely agree with her! there is just something different about the kind of connection between 2 who are in love as compared to that of friends. You don't wake up in the morning and always have your friend in your thoughts first thing in the morning. You also know that you're definitely not on your friend's first thought either. But the heart starts filling up with honey when you think abt someone you love and you know that he/she is thinking of you too! Doesn't it?

Marriage is like a contract, to put it in business terms. When you decide to share the remaining yrs of your lifetime with someone, you're taking a risk. And you hope and pray you've explored enough, learned enough and taken a calculated risk. However, in the romantic sense, it is a promise to someone you love that you'll accompany him and give him the support and care for the rest of his life. In return, you get his companionship, support and care too!

Humans like security. We like to know there's always someone to count on 24/7... in order for that to happen, that someone needs to count on you for 24/7 too! and this kind of dependency can only occur in spouses and couples where exclusivity is the key. (i'm not talking abt polygamous societies of course)

I've always believed myself to be a strong independent woman. Perhaps it was the way i was brought up. Ever since my childhood days, i've been taught to work for the things i want on my own. Being the eldest child, i never had a big sister/brother to rely on when i didn't know how to do my math. When i was the only one learning music in the family, there was simply no one to ask! I had to learn everything myself.

Hence, if i were to stay single my whole life, i probably will still survive. I don't think i'll ever NEED to depend on someone to stay alive or sane. "Need" is one thing, "want" is another... Sometimes i do wish i can shake off that independence and have someone to lean on. Somehow i just know that life won't ever be complete without that piece of jigsaw puzzle right in the middle. I can imagine i'll grow old with a tinge of regret if i never had the chance to experience loving someone, savour the joys of being married and take part in bringing up a child.

haha... enough said. i'm glad my dear frens are numerous steps closer to experiencing the wonders of marriage than me. Meanwhile, i'll just hafta peel my eyes open while i wait patiently for my Mr Right!